Saturday, May 16, 2015

8 Ways You Can Be TOO Nice To Your Ex

As a chocolate lover, I'd like to think you can never have too much chocolate. Similarly, I want to say you can never be too good.  But I do think you can overplay a strength, particularly with an ex, and get yourself in trouble. It's the same with matter how good it is, there's trouble when you've had too much.

We see this issue discussed much more in organizational articles than on the relationship side of things. In an organization, if you overplay your character strength of decisiveness, you risk alienating your peers by being overpowering. In a relationship, being too decisive can cause overreliance on your opinions, encouraging dependency from your ex.

Your ex may beg overtly or subtly for the continuation of various behaviors that, while very appropriate for a spouse, cross the invisible boundaries you are attempting to establish. Sometimes it's difficult because the request seems like something you "should" do precisely because it taps into one of your strengths. 

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