As a chocolate lover, I'd like to think you can never have too
much chocolate. Similarly, I want to say you can never be too good. But I do think you can overplay a strength,
particularly with an ex, and get yourself in trouble. It's the same with chocolate...no matter how good it is, there's
trouble when you've had too much.
We see this issue discussed much more in organizational
articles than on the relationship side of things. In an organization, if
you overplay your character strength of decisiveness, you risk alienating your
peers by being overpowering. In a relationship, being too decisive can cause overreliance
on your opinions, encouraging dependency from your ex.
Your ex may beg
overtly or subtly for the continuation of various behaviors that, while very
appropriate for a spouse, cross the invisible boundaries you are attempting to
establish. Sometimes it's difficult because the request seems like something
you "should" do precisely because it taps into one of your strengths.
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