Sunday, November 24, 2013

10 Ingredients Of Successful Couples Therapy

When Bob and Carol come into my office the first time, two things about them are immediately clear to me. Bob thinks Carol needs to change and he’s just along for the ride; Carol is certain Bob needs to make all the changes. It’s a recipe for disaster. Whether it’s couples counseling, relationship coaching or marital therapy, there are a few things that can help you get started on the right foot and stay true to your goal of improving your relationship.
1.   Be willing to change. There are some circumstances in which it is about one of you, for example, active addiction and active abuse. For most couples it's about the relationship. Blaming your partner for everything, or expecting them to be the only one to make changes, is doomed to fail. You must both participate actively.

2. Show up. Be on time and don’t cancel sessions. Make it a priority. Read more here...