When things are going reasonably well, we tend to take relationships for granted. There are a number of things we can all do to improve our relationships, in good times and in bad. Based on the Gottman’s work on marital satisfaction, here are a few of the keys.
1. Ask lots of questions and talk a lot, so you can know one another better. Isn’t it cool when you learn something new about your partner after 5 years? 10 years?
1. Ask lots of questions and talk a lot, so you can know one another better. Isn’t it cool when you learn something new about your partner after 5 years? 10 years?
2. Be positive! Notice what your partner is doing right and comment on it. Show positive affect by keeping your tone positive, smiling, using humor and affection, especially in conflict situations. Use compassionate communication by being clear about your needs and wants, nonaggressively.
3. Turn toward your partner literally and figuratively. Accept requests for more intimacy and contact and ask for more yourself.
4. Take a time out. When you are in conflict and you feel yourself getting hotter, agree to take a time out to cool off. Then get back to the calm discussion.
5. Share. Share time, share ideas, share rituals, share hobbies, share vacations, share meals and create positive memories together.
For better and for worse, in sickness and in health, it’s always key to love and to cherish (I’m not so sure about the honoring and obeying part).
4 comments:
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BEST RELATIONSHIP TIPS FOR WOMEN.
#2 be positive... GREAT tip. Most people think about themselves too much and forget about this really important one.
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