You've probably had one of those knots in your back like the
one I have right now. You stress out over something, lean over your computer
too much, go to yoga, slip on your mat and, a day later, agony. You can hardly
lift your arm over your head without excruciating pain. This must be much like
the samskara, or energy knot, my yoga
instructor has been talking about.
Samskaras are negative
patterns of behavior we have developed over the course of our lives. They are
strategies that do not serve us well, yet we are compelled to repeat them over
and over. Like Freud's repetition compulsion, when we try to undo past trauma
by engaging in the same ineffective behavior, we are doomed to fail.
There are some particular post-breakup samskaras I hear over and over. Consider a few options for
releasing their maddening hold:
1. Social media lurking. Checking your ex's
activities on various platforms, via your friend's platforms or by allowing
people to pass info onto you, each represent misguided attempts to hang on.
